I have several, non-Jewish friends who have married Jewish men. I have several friends who insist that I should consider Jewish men. “They are generally well educated, well traveled, family oriented and successful”. While I am not Jewish nor interested in converting, I must admit that I am intrigued by the idea of a new pool of men to date. I feel like I have exhausted all possibilities on www.plentyoffish.com (even though I met both Dr. G and B.E. on that site).
I must admit that I’m pretty fed up with online dating, period. That’s probably why I haven’t bothered to activate my Jdate account even though I have over 60 emails that I can’t see (because I haven’t paid the membership fee yet). My fear is that 9 out of 10 men on Jdate are only interested in meeting Jewish women or women willing to convert. My friend Andrea and I were joking that we wished Jdate published a Shiksa Success report so we knew if it was a wise investment.
I’m not sure what to do. I really am super excited about the possibility of a whole new group of guys to meet! I would love to hear from anyone who has used the site or has insight on whether Jewish guys really will be serious about a woman not wishing to convert.
And here’s a poll to share your opinion….regardless if you are Jewish or date Jewish or not 
xo, Sam
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Oh, there’s my article under yours, listed as a related post.
It’s crazy… Jdate used to have an option “Not Jewish and willing to convert” but that was as non-Jewish it was willing to go. I hear that now there is an option “Not Jewish and not planning on converting,” something like that. Not sure what he point is, then, of a Jewish dating site but that’s a different topic.
So, you could click that option and then you’d have to assume that at least some percentage of the guys who wrote you actually read your profile and saw that you aren’t Jewish.
Just beware of the Jewish people who right now think it doesn’t matter to them but deep down they do care. One important fact in all of this is that according to Jewish tradition, a child is Jewish through his/her mother. That means that if a Jewish guy marries you and you don’t become Jewish, his kids aren’t Jewish.
Granted, there are Jewish sects that don’t believe that anymore but in mainstream Jewish tradition, there is no such thing as half Jewish. You are either Jewish because your mother is (and her mother is, etc.) or not because she isn’t. It has nothing to do with the dad.
Good luck!
Hi Deena,
I also put in my profile that I wasn’t Jewish, but open to dating a Jewish man who was open to dating non-Jewish women.
The new option is “Not willing to convert”. I did select that, but I’m guessing Jewish boys are just like all other boys and only look at the pictures
I TOTALLY hear you on being wary of guys who say it doesn’t matter. It’s like 25-year old women who swear they don’t care whether they have kids or not. That’s really easy to say at 25, but I would bet that 90% of them change their tune by 35 (I should know, I was one of them!)
Thanks for your comment!
xo, Sam
I think it’s worth a try but you should be really clear on your profile and upon meeting people that you’re not Jewish and never will be! I know of mixed couples who have successful relationships. And I’m Jewish but I don’t mind marrying a non-Jew (though as Deena points out, I’m the woman in the relationship so my kids would be Jewish no matter what). Anyway, I say it’s worth a try.